She never had a moment to herself, working multiple jobs, one of them the most precious job: motherhood. She gave everything to her children; every minute, penny, bit of strength, ounce of energy, and all the love she had. Her kids weren’t easy either. They rarely are in a one parent environment. One was rebellious and constantly questioned everything. The other unmotivated and ungrateful.
No doubt, there were times her mind wandered back to the days when she didn’t have to take care of anyone but herself. I’m sure she wanted to give up sometimes, thinking, “This is too hard, I can’t do this alone.” But she never left her kids in need.
She made close friends and shared intimate details of her life so they could better help her with the kids. And these friends weren’t just normal people. They were good people, ones that loved almost as much as her. She surrounded herself with people of good character so her kids would have examples to shape their lives around. Little did she know, she was the best example around.
At times she may have thought her kids hated her. But they never did. They took out all their frustrations on her, because she was always there. Times were tough and she didn’t know if she could keep the family together, she didn’t know if she could provide for them and finally she didn’t think she could protect them from suffering.
When her kids became teenagers, she faced the hardest challenges of her life. Her kids were damaged and could not comprehend the care and sacrifice she made for them. They fought her every step of the way. At times her kids wouldn’t speak to her. She knew she needed to give them their space, and all she could do was pray over them. That was the hardest thing she ever did. To sit back and let her kids experience consequences ripped her heart out.
Now that her children are adults, they view her equally as a friend and mother. Just like when they were young, they depend on her to guide them in adulthood. She is still the first person her kids share things with, not out of obligation but because she is their most trusted ally.
In 2015, Khanittha ‘Mint’ Phasaeng won Miss Uncensored News Thailand. This woman was raised by a single mother who spent her whole life collecting recyclable material to provide for her family. After Mint won, she returned to her home and knelt before her mother in respect, kissing her feet. This illustration is beautiful. Mint knew that she owed EVERYTHING to her mother. Who she is and what she has not just overcome but accomplished, is because of how her mother raised her.
She is fulfilled because she knows her kids love her more than anything in this world. She is brave, courageous and compassionate. Every family should be complete. But her kids are thankful they had a mother like her. They will take care of her in the end, as she took care of them. With grace and unconditional love.